1. Jealousy — they often imagine victims are having affairs.

2. They try to isolate victims.

3. They try to control victims.

4. They have Jekyll and Hyde personalitieS.

5. May have other problems with the law.

6. They have explosive tempers — they fly into rages without provocation.

7. They tell victims it is all their fault - they project their own faults onto victims.

8. They use verbal assault in addition to physical assault (insults, put downs, slanderous names).

9. They come from families where violence was practiced.

10. They may be more violent when victims are pregnant or soon after victims give birth.

11. They deny the beatings or their seventy — they may seem not to remember.

12. They will do whatever it takes to drive victims away — then whatever it takes to get them back: kidnap the kids, apologize profusely, send flowers, cry real tears, or promise anything. And they know exactly what victims want to hear, "I'll go to church with you", "I’ll go to counseling", "I’ll stop drinking", "I'll never hit you again", etc.

13. Once victims return, their performance is repeated — whatever it takes to drive them away followed by whatever it takes to get them back.

INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS AND STRESSES

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