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"Treat Others as You Would
Like Them to Treat You - Except Your Wife: Make Sure She Obeys You"
Religious and Cultural Cruelty of Women - The Most Serious Form of
Abuse
Copyright 2003 - All Rights Reserved Authors of thingsarelookinup.com
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Women have been culturally controlled and oppressed for centuries. When
we tried to make progress to rid ourselves of this oppression the message
was "Get an education, go to work and put your kids in day care- and then
maybe you can avoid this cruelty." That's not good enough. All women deserve
to be free of oppression and control.
In religion, in society and in your own families you will find the remains
of oppressive controlling attitudes whose origins date to before Christ!
We're still working to globally incorporate Christ's biggest message: treat
others the way you would like to be treated.
Women Caused Original Sin: A Switch on Everything We Know About Male/Female Biology
Let's start here, with the story of the origin of sin:
On the Christian radio station two ministers were discussing the story of
Adam and Eve. They made Eve sound like the bad guy--not once but twice!
First as the weak and spineless succumbing to temptation, OK, she is responsible
for her actions. But then they painted her as the evil seductress who caused
Adam to eat the apple!!
I've gotta ask you, as a mother, if Eve had told
Adam to jump off a cliff, do you think he would've done it?
This story goes completely against everything we know about men and women to date. Biologically men don't sit around and wait for a woman to bring them an apple, folks, and women don't do the chasing. That's not how we are wired. It is, in fact, the exact opposite.
So what is going on here? This is part of a legacy of male immaturity that we can follow throughout history - in the law, the church, in societal attitudes - that seeks to put blame on women for things men don't want to take responsibility for. If men can blame everything they do on a seductive woman, a woman who agrees, a woman who responds, a woman willing to take money, then the eyeballs are off them and they are free to do what they want.
And make no mistake: Any brainwashed woman who participates in perpetuating this legacy is just as abusive.
The ministers who perpetuate the story in this light - the story of the
origins of sin itself! - are participating in the deliberate cultural
and religious abuse / control of women. In fact, it can be said that, by virtue of their influence, religious leaders who continue to put the
blame on women for the abusive behavior of their husbands are more culpable
for the abuse than the husbands themselves.
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Maturity Demands Taking Responsibility for One's Own Actions
Blaming someone else for your actions is a well-understood boundaries
violation, yet tolerated and woven tightly into our cultural beliefs is
the idea that when it comes to sex and tempers and control men are not
responsible for their actions. "Boys will be boys." "Men need to be in
control." "When men get crabby they get emotionally or physically violent."
"Women should be more submissive so they don't anger their men." "She
is his wife, he has a right to her body." "She said yes - it's her fault! You must expect a man to try!"
Not taking responsibility for one's actions is well-known as a sign of
1) emotional immaturity
2) more seriously, a character disorder
3) and, more seriously, a sociopath.
Institutionalizing the oppression and abuse of women through laws and
religious constructs dates back a long time. Needless to say, women didn't
have a word in constructing the rules or the institutions that made
the rules, nor in deciding how the rules would be made and who would
make them. Examples include organized religion, the legal system, the
political selection process and more. Consequently oppressive
attitudes that date back 1000 years or more can still be found in our
culture today, at church, in our families and in society at large.
Join the millions who have learned to just say "No. That's a boundaries
violation" to those who try to hurt you with cultural and religious abuse.
"Obey Your Husband" - or... what?
Today's religious leaders are running themselves ragged trying to justify
and explain why men should be the "head of the household" - a surefire
sign that something is wrong with this picture. And something is
wrong with this picture: Domestic violence and Emotional Abuse are highest
among groups - cultural or religious - where it is believed that the male
is the head of the household.
Forcing any person or group of people to obey another person or group
for any justification has been illegal now for over a century. It's defined
under the law using a legal term you might recognize: Slavery.
Here is the verbiage from Section 13 of the United States Constitution:
Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude,
except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly
convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject
to their jurisdiction.
When leaders of a religious group or any group abuse their power and
influence to expect one person to "obey" another, they are guilty of
forcing "involuntary servitude". "Obey" is a word only in the vocabulary
of oppressors and abusers. Ask any king's subject. Ask any former slave.
Ask any victim of child molestation.
Believing one's self to be the "boss"
of anyone is a manifestation of emotional immaturity. Mature people share
power, seek co-working environments and partnerships hallmarked by mutual
support and equality. Immature people often seek power over others to
try to fill basic unmet developmental needs that can only be met through
introspection and education. The "feeling" of power one gets
from powering over others is heady but fleeting, and an unconscious quest
for more and more begins once a person starts down this path. Mature people
are advised to avoid relationships with immature people who choose the
"power over" method of personal fulfillment, or they can expect to be victims
of emotional abuse that can leave long-term scars.
Continued! Page 2 :
Psychiatry: A Legacy of Immature Men
Who has a "Boundaries Problem?"
Yelling is Assault
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